So, I had this experience recently that really challenged my mental health. I'm not gonna get into the details, but let's just say it was a real mind-fuck. And for a while there, I tried to push through it like I always do. I thought I could just tough it out and everything would be okay.
But the truth is, that shit wasn't sustainable. I was neglecting my own needs and well-being in an effort to please others and avoid conflict. And that was taking a serious toll on my mental health.
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It was then that I realized I needed to start protecting my boundaries - even if it meant potentially hurting others in the process. I needed to prioritize my own well-being and make sure that I was taking care of myself first and foremost.
Now, I know what you're thinking. "Jeremy, that sounds pretty selfish, dude." And yeah, I get it. I've always been a people-pleaser, and the idea of potentially disappointing or upsetting someone was difficult for me to stomach. That’s something I may always need to work on.
So, from now on I will say no more often. I will stop taking on additional commitments and start delegating tasks to others when I can. I’ll set clear expectations with those around me about what I am and am not comfortable with, and start to prioritize my own needs and desires.
And yeah, there will definitely be some uncomfortable moments along the way. There will be times when I need to stand up to people I care about and say, "Look, this isn't working for me." But you know what? It will be worth it.
Because here's the thing: protecting your boundaries isn't just about taking care of yourself. It's about taking responsibility for your own life and your own happiness. It's about recognizing that you're the only person who can truly look out for yourself and that sometimes that means making difficult decisions and standing up for what you believe in.
So if you're struggling with setting boundaries in your own life, I want you to know that it's okay to say no. It's okay to prioritize yourself and your own needs. And it's okay to potentially hurt others in the process because, at the end of the day, you're the only person who can truly take care of yourself.
My recent experience taught me a powerful lesson about the importance of protecting my boundaries. It wasn't easy, but it was necessary. And if you're struggling with setting boundaries in your own life, I encourage you to take a step back, assess your needs, and prioritize your own well-being. Because at the end of the day, you're the only person who can truly look out for yourself.
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